A List of 15 Things I Absolutely Fucking Hate
Field notes from the war against toxic positivity
There's something fascinating about the way anger transforms when you study it under a microscope. Like watching cells divide and multiply, each frustration splitting into deeper understanding.
Yesterday, scrolling through another toxic positivity post about "choosing happiness," I found myself cataloging all the ways we've learned to weaponize wellness.
It started as a list. A simple collection of observations, each one a specimen of something larger. But as I examined them closer, patterns emerged.
Cultural behaviors replicating like viruses, spreading through our collective consciousness, masquerading as evolution when really, they're mutations of the same old trauma.
A list of 15 things I absolutely fucking hate
The way people apologize for crying, like vulnerability isn't the bravest thing we've got
When someone calls their body "broken" just because it doesn't look like an Instagram filter
When someone calls manifestation "woo woo" but believes in cryptocurrency
How we've normalized "busy" as a personality trait instead of a trauma response
The silent competition of who's suffering more
How we mock people for loving things "too much," like joy is something to be rationed
People who say they're "just being honest" when they're actually being cruel
The weird flex of bragging about only getting 4 hours of sleep
When someone says "good vibes only" but refuses to process their shadow self
How we've turned self-care into another thing to feel guilty about
The fact that we'll spend $7 on coffee but say therapy is too expensive
How we'll spend hours on TikTok but can't find five minutes to text our best friend back
When we call it "Type A personality" because we're afraid to name our anxiety
The way we've turned human connection into content creation
How we praise hustle culture but shame people who choose joy
The antidote to artificial sweetness
Here's the thing about hate—it's just love with its heart broken. Every item on this list is really about how much I love us, how much I believe in our capacity to do better. To be better. To heal without turning healing into another form of harm.
Maybe that's what this list is really about.
Not the hate at all, but the hope hiding underneath it.
The possibility that if we name these things, if we drag them into the light and really look at them, they'll lose their power to replicate.
That we might finally evolve into something more honest, more whole. Something real.
Heavy on number 3!!!
And if there’s one thing I hate it’s something I can’t stand! (Stolen from a friend who probably stole it too)