Sometimes when I post on Instagram I can feel the eye rolls from various people in my views. I can almost see them digitally clutching their pearls while scrolling through my feed. Whether I’m posting unhinged memes about foraging mushrooms and being in conversation with faeries or dissecting a religious text to prove why judgement is the ego’s favorite pulpit.
Sometimes the comments come (and other times, they don’t), but they almost always say some variation of: “Praying for you, sweetie. This isn’t the path Jesus would want for you.”
Funny thing about Jesus–he spent most of his time hanging out with the people the religious folks wouldn’t touch.
But here we are in 2025, watching Christians police each other’s spiritual practices like TSA agents checking for contraband communion wine. Missing the entire point of what it means to walk in faith while stumbling around in the darkness of their own judgment.
The Ego’s Favorite Pulpit
Your ego is your soul’s anchor to this material world. It’s the part of you that needs to be right, needs to be better, needs to be more spiritual than the person sitting next to you in the pew.
And nothing feeds the ego quite like religious righteousness.
I’ve seen it in every spiritual space I’ve ever inhabited. The Buddhist who judges Christians for their “attachment” to a personal God. The Christian who judges the Buddhist for their “false idols.” The New Age spiritualist who judges both for being “too rigid.”
All of them walking around in complete spiritual darkness while claiming to be enlightened. The irony is suffocating.
Although I could focus on varying pieces of spiritual doctrine that prove the above, I’m going to root into the bible for this one. You ready?
BuT bRi YoUrE tAKinG iT OuT oF cOnTExT!
No. Actually, I’m not.
If you look deeper into the text of 1 John 2, you’ll see exactly what I mean. Prior to verses nine, ten, and eleven, the passage discusses how those who know Christ are those who follow the commands given by the Lord, and that those who know Christ will always be atoned by the sacrifice of The Son.
Subsequently, a new command is provided: that all believers must not hate another believer, for love is light and hatred is darkness.
Thus, the question becomes: is judgement a form of hatred?
On Judgement as a Mode of Hatred
I grew up watching women turn Christianity into a competition sport. Who could pray the loudest, volunteer the most, judge the hardest.
The same women who would clutch their crosses while gossiping about the divorced mother in the back pew. Who would quote scripture about love while casting stones at anyone whose faith looked different from theirs. They turned discernment into a weapon.
But, in reality, discernment is internal. A hum of gentleness. It’s the quiet intuition that guides your own choices, your own boundaries, your own spiritual path. It’s wisdom that protects and directs.
Judgment itself is external. It’s the loud voice that needs everyone else to conform to your understanding of what’s holy. It’s fear disguised as righteousness.
The difference is this. Discernment whispers “this isn’t for me.” Judgment screams “this isn’t for anyone.” One protects your energy. Is an internally developed boundary based on chosen lifestyle. The other aims to project and control other people’s lifestyles based on your own.
And what’s more hateful than judgement that leads to nonconsensual control over the way another person experiences the light of Christ (or, insert other name for the force of the creator here if relevant to you)?
Let’s Get Woo Woo About It
The confusion between internal discernment and external judgment has destroyed more spiritual communities than any external persecution ever could.
Here’s something that’ll mess with your Sunday school theology–you are the universe experiencing itself subjectively. No matter the religion you come from, the particular theological belief system you have in place, or the science you choose to believe or not believe.
If you were created by The Creator, there is a piece of you that exists in every other living thing, be it the rib or the missing space.
If you were created by The Big Bang, there is a piece of you that exits in every other living thing, be it stardust or atoms.
The same atoms, the same stardust, the same rib or missing piece that formed everything as you know it are reading this right now. I, the author, am a piece of you, just as you are a piece of me.
That’s why nothing feels normal when you really start paying attention to the spiritual realm. Because you’re not separate from it. You ARE it.
Every person you judge for their spiritual practice is made of the same cosmic material you are. The same divine spark. The same universal consciousness trying to understand itself through infinite expressions.
When a Christian takes communion, when a Buddhist sits in meditation, when someone journeys with plant medicine, when a witch casts a circle under the full moon–it’s all the same thing.
It’s stardust trying to remember where it came from through different means that resonate with different manifestations of itself at different points in time.
But the Ego Can’t Handle This Truth
The ego needs hierarchy. It needs to be special, chosen, perfect, poised and 100% right 100% of the time. It needs its spiritual practice to be THE spiritual practice. So it creates false prophecies about other people’s relationship with the divine to make itself feel comfortable, satisfied and safe.
I know Christians who microdose psilocybin for depression and find God in ways their antidepressants never delivered. I know Christians who use tarot cards as prayer tools, asking the Holy Spirit for guidance through the imagery. I know Christians who practice yoga as moving prayer, who burn sage while reading scripture, who find Jesus in meditation retreats that never mention his name.
And I know Christians who would cast all of them out of the church without a second thought.
These gatekeepers are walking around in spiritual darkness while convinced they’re carrying torches. They can’t see where they’re going because their judgment has blinded them to the very thing they claim to serve: LOVE.
The commandment Jesus gave wasn’t “make sure everyone worships exactly like you do.” It was “love one another as I have loved you.” It was to love their brother or sister to live in the light. To LOVE fellow believers no matter how their faith manifests as long as they are living true to the word of Christ himself.
Loving their neighbor
Mending the sick
Feeding the hungry
Helping the poor
Treating the foreigner in their lands as one of their own
But love doesn’t feed the ego. Love doesn’t create spiritual hierarchies. Love doesn’t give you permission to feel superior to other believers. (All subjective, I know, but that’s for another essay.)
Love just loves. And that’s terrifying to an ego that has built its entire identity around being holier than thou.
My Invitation to You
So here’s my invitation to every Christian clutching their pearls at unconventional spiritual practices.
What if your judgment is the thing keeping you in spiritual darkness?
What if your need to be right about how others should worship is the very thing blinding you to the divine presence showing up everywhere around you?
What if the person taking mushrooms for spiritual insight is having the same encounter with the sacred that you have during worship?
What if God is bigger than your fear of other people’s spiritual expressions?
I’m not asking you to take mushrooms. I’m not asking you to read tarot cards. I’m not asking you to change a single thing about your personal spiritual practice.
I am asking you to stop using your spiritual practice as a weapon against other people’s. I am asking you to consider that maybe, just maybe, the divine is creative enough to meet people wherever they are, however they’re seeking. I am asking you to love your brother and sister who worships differently than you do.
Because until you do, you’re still walking around in the darkness. And the rest of us can see it, even if you can’t.
Wow. I'm a christian and I have been thinking about this lately, my parents are judgemental people and I've been struggling with using their example as well as Jesus's. I agree with you: the number one thing is love, and i so often need to be reminded of that. Great writing, food for thought, thank you for this!
Really well done, Bri. I'm not a Christian, so as one who worships differently (if/when I choose to worship), I appreciate this take. How one seeks to connect with the divine, or whether or not they choose to do so, is a personal choice. There is no set path or right answer.