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Tasha Lindbeck's avatar

What’s crazy is it suddenly started raining… in my room… from my eyes. Wild.

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Bri Wheeler's avatar

You are worthy of so so so so much love ❤️ also I had a TOUGH couple weeks because of therapy so right there with you baby!!

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Tasha Lindbeck's avatar

You give vibes of such a lovely person. I am sending you a little extra love right now!! ❤️

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Bri Wheeler's avatar

I appreciate you sm 🥺🤎

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Andrew Barban's avatar

Bri, that was a tough journey. Thank you for sharing. You are like a hermit crab outgrowing its shell. You will do this many times in your life. Keep growing :)

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Maya's avatar

I found this while browsing my feed, and I can’t explain how much I needed to read this as I’m working through a forced season of life changes at the moment.

Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share this, I feel less alone (& I’m sure others do too.)

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Renee Changnon's avatar

Wow, I'm so glad I found your substack and opened up this letter from the heart. I too have had a complicated relationship with who I was in the past and the decisions I made. But you're right. Because of them, we survived and are here today. I am so proud of how far I've come and it sounds like you are, too. This is why I show up on this platform. Thanks for this beautifully written piece.

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Camille's avatar

👏🏼👏🏼 "They don’t have to fight each other. They can coexist." and there is a larger metaphor within that sentiment, too 💛

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Sandra Maestre's avatar

This reminds me a lot of what older siblings deal with. Being one myself I particularly resonate with recognizing how harsh I've been to myself even as a child and having all these insane standards, but realizing that I am where I am in part because of these traits and that I shouldn't let them go, simply, direct them to the things that I actually enjoy... my ikigai if you will.

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Mohammad Masroor Addin's avatar

The visceral honesty about wanting to excavate her from my system like a tumor will resonate with anyone who's ever felt shame about their coping mechanisms. You've given language to something many people feel but can't articulate that self hatred disguised as self improvement.

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Bri Wheeler's avatar

Thank you 🥹 that line specifically was inspired by the poem I wrote and embedded in the article and I’m soooo touched it has resonated with so many of you!

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Mohammad Masroor Addin's avatar

There's something so validating about reading words that capture exactly what you've been feeling but couldn't express.

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Lauren Gabrielle Foster's avatar

Love this!

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Kellz Bowen's avatar

Oooooh my god I'm not crying I'm not crying I'm not crying. I needed to hear this. Thank you and your past you for putting this out into the world 🖤🖤🖤🖤

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Brenda - A Voice that Wonders's avatar

That is so written from the depths of your soul. So glad that you are working it through. So often we want to expunge the part of us we don’t like. But working through the process is life changing. Thank you for this raw, honest perspective of you. 🌸

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Generalist Design's avatar

Wow, my younger part that I am working with in therapy myself needed to hear this. I’m glad this post came across my feed this morning. Thanks Bri!

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Juliet Rogers's avatar

Wow! Your truthful and honest raw writing seems eerily familiar. We definitely need to connect, and I look forward to reading more of your work.

My name is Juliet.

I write about real, raw truth from the perspective of a middle-aged woman who’s battled through life and clawed my way through trauma. With a pinch of sass and a dash of yoga philosophy, my intention is to offer perspective, hope, and practical tools to women who are craving a soul sister’s point of view.

https://substack.com/@julietrogerslivebetter?r=52tpiz&utm_medium=ios

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